Once I became aware of myself(which is an ongoing process) it was chocking to see how judgmental I was toward myself. My self talk was so harsh and I became ashamed of the judgmental comments I would repeat over and over again. The ironic thing was that in my shame i was once again judging myself and this made it so much easier for me to make excuses for my thoughts, emotions and behaviors. It all became a vicious cycle.
Becoming aware of oneself does not mean that you have to force change upon yourself, remember that change is inevitable. Just be observant and learn how to sit with what ever arises without trying to change it. Let it be what it is and have faith in the process of life.
"We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.", The Talmud (Jewish sacred text).
Everything is a reflection of yourself and I like to say that everything start with thyself. In one of Louise Hays books she says that when we find something in another person we dislike, you can turn the attention inwards and find the same thing with in yourself. So we can only see as far or as deep as we are.
Just because you see this thing you believe you see in others does not necessarily mean that it is there. This is misperception, and how you view others says more about you than it says about them. Remember that we are all on a journey, and stay on your path instead of judging others. Turn the focus and attention inwards. Discover yourself by being aware of yourself and where you are right now.
Exercise: Self- obervation